Earlier this week I wrote an article about boundaries, and true to form I have been re-thinking it most of this week and wondering if I did not consider the other side of the issue. Specifically, could the boundary keep you from being able to solve a problem?
The difficult answer is yes. But maybe (probably) that is okay. Maybe “solving” the problem really is not the issue, especially if it is not truly solved. Maybe in the long run the immediate gratitude of “solving” the problem is outweighed by the benefit to your psyche and knowing you can make and hold a boundary.
Solving problems is great, but I think in the end the peace of mind that can come from holding a boundary is better. The trick might be to simply learn to sit with the problem.
This personal growth stuff really sucks sometimes.